Monday, March 1, 2010

For Parents

Hi Kindergarten Parents,

This one's for you, parents and fellow kindergarten teachers.

Click over to Honorable Mention to see a 5 minute, 15 second YouTube video clip about the "Marshmallow Test." I think you will agree that it's worth the time you'll spend.

And, yes, give your child the gift of limits, boundaries, and deferred gratification.


Corinne said...

Thank for the video! Thought it was interesting indeed. Love the little boy who tasted, felt, and played with it- but didn't eat it. Funny, my grandfather gave me that book when he wasn't approving my parenting methods, and of course I was slightly offended. But, it does offer a good reality check .. done with love and kindness of course.

The Honorable Mention said...

Hi Dan,
I can only wonder what I would have done as a child. I know everyday of my life I can look at as a Marshmellow Test. It's true for our little ones, too.....
Love doesn't always come in a hurry, but it always comes in time.
As always, Dan, we appreciate your support and dedication to the kids.

Dan Gurney said...

Hi Corinne, I'm glad you enjoyed the video. I'd heard about this research quite a long time ago, and it makes a lot of sense... the ability to defer gratification is required of us a great deal in this world. The wise person knows how to manage desires so as not to run amok on their account.

Dan Gurney said...

Hi, Barbra--

I wonder, too, what I would have done. I think if the experimenter was someone I thought I could trust, I would have waited. If I felt the experimenter wasn't trustworthy, I'd have eaten it. I wonder if the experiment controlled for the trustworthiness of the research adult that talks to the kid?

Barbra Stephens said...

Interesting point, Dan. I think the experimenter spent some time with the child before the actual experiment-removing 'extraneous variables' as they call it, but I would have to check on that.

Barbra Stephens said...

Hi Dan,
I researched your question. It appears Mischel wasn't too concerned about this 'trust' issue as he was the child's own ability to delay their gratification/self control. He is looking more to the science behind it & possibly the neural circuitry involved when it comes to success in life.
This is a quote from The New Yorker:

Mischel argues that intelligence is largely at the mercy of self-control: even the smartest kids still need to do their homework. “What we’re really measuring with the marshmallows isn’t will power or self-control,” Mischel says. “It’s much more important than that. This task forces kids to find a way to make the situation work for them. They want the second marshmallow, but how can they get it? We can’t control the world, but we can control how we think about it.”

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