Monday, December 29, 2008

Cat's in the Cradle

My son, Ted's in Africa. Just talked with him on the phone.

He feels so far away so very far away....

This song came to mind. If you're a dad, have a listen. (Lyrics below.



My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talking before I knew it and as he grew
He said, "I'm gonna be like you, Dad,
You know I'm gonna be like you"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
When you comin' home, dad, I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, Son,
You know we'll have a good time then.

My son turned ten just the other day
He said "Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let's play
can you teach me to throw?" I said, "Not today,
I got a lot to do" He said "Thats okay"
And then he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said "I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm going to be like him"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, dad, I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, Son,
You know we'll have a good time then.

Well he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say,
"Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?"
He shook his head, and he said with a smile

"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?"

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Son, I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, Dad,
You know we'll have a good time then.

I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day.
I said "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"
He said "I'd love to Dad, if I could find the time.
You see my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu.
But It's sure nice talking to you, Dad,
It's been sure nice talking to you."
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me,
My boy was just like me..............


And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin' home, Son, I don't know when,
But we'll get together then, Dad
We're gonna have a good time then.

2 comments:

teach5 said...

Yeah, THAT song is just great for laying guilt and regrets. Don't beat yourself up too bad. We are wired that way. In our early years as adults, we start families, and we WORK to provide for them. I doubt you were ever a corporate workaholic. The best dad's even wish they had done some things differently. They probably do so BECAUSE they were the best dads. It hit me hardest, when I started teaching kindergarten and became involved in the lives of all of these wonderful 5 year olds and realized that I had pretty much missed that period in my own children's lives. I watch them with their own children now and I think that they all have done a much better job than I did.

Dan Gurney, Mr. Kindergarten said...

Hi, Teach 5. Yes, I do tend toward feeling guilty and regretful sometimes. I think one curse of teaching is exactly the one you point out: we get involved in the lives of our students to such a degree as to forget our number one kids: our own kids. I'm not a grandparent yet, but I look forward to it!

PS: I love your blog